暧昧让人受尽委屈
Today's topic.
This may affect probably almost all pple, be it Boy-Girl, Girl-Boy, urh.. Girl-Girl or Boy-Boy; less the monks from 少林寺 that is.
First we have to look into the meaning of this.. With appreciation from 《现代汉语大词典》
暧昧 -(态度、用意)含糊;不明白
So as Rainie's song goes.. How does it let pple 委屈 eh?
A few ways, but collectively speaking I would catergorise it as..
1)喜欢又不说
2)一点点喜欢又不说
3)不喜欢又不说
1)喜欢又不说
This is what I'd term 最幸福但最不幸. If these few words are too long. You can summarise it and call this group "WAH LAO". Already 喜欢liao, den either the female lead or male lead (mostly is the female, this is really not a biased point of view.) don't let the other party know so their 关系 remains platonic, den the ending would be 渐行渐远. Reason? Girls always say they must have ‘女人的坚持’so cannot make the first move. Something they don't understand is that the guy may be a complete 被动-Manual Driven-白痴 so the day he 主动 would be like forever later.
2)一点点喜欢又不说
This catergory is one where you like the other party but don't know if it is enough to become an item. And if unattended, this catergory would evolve into “你是我最好的异性朋友”, once it reaches 这步田地, it is irreversible just like you dissolve salt in water. You may get the original salt back if you heat it la... But not a lot of pple would do that and would just make do with salty water.
3)不喜欢又不说
This is also known as "JIALAT". Stop leading the other party on! He/she 笨笨傻傻蠢蠢 thinking that there's a 未来, only to be devastated at the very last moment. This is the hardest to solve of all three catergories as you 暧昧 for so long already yet you have totally no feelings for that person. Handled misappropretely may cause ties to 断裂 and create intense pain for both parties. Worst is when you all already 80%. Percentage lessons will be on another post but 80% means the hands holding stage in short. Thus try not to position yourself in such a difficult place by sing David Tao's song more often..
但你说 I.. I only wanna be your friend 做个朋友
Alright then, finally the conclusion. There be various 暧昧s around besides the above mentioned 3. However if you're smart enough to realise (Qiu Yi you definitely will right?) there is one common factor amongst all of them. It is “不说”. You aren't mute or what right? So communications is very important in all kinds of relationship, be it romance, friendship or whatever. You wouldn't want your best friend of the same sex to one day tell you, “其实…我…爱你。” (Sorry with regards to the homos and bis, not against you lot but it's just a general example)
Last, I'd like to say something on behalf of the male population. We disagree that 男人and女人 cannot be 单纯的朋友. So it's really fine when 友谊 doesn't become 爱情, but if 暧昧 too long it's really taxing and not to say tiring. That's it then.
暧昧让人变得贪心 直到等待失去意义 无奈我和你 写不出结局 放遗憾的美丽 停在这里
Donned my mask at 8:04 AM